9 Ways to Be Your Best Self So You Can Attract the Guy of Your Dreams

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When it comes to becoming your best self, women have different versions. For some, success equals managing a highly successful business, working at a high-paying job, being a part of a high-class social circle, or raising a happy, healthy family. 

Regardless of how society defines success, truly happy women view things differently from others while preparing for their future.  

When a woman lives her best life, she has certain habits that contribute to her prosperity and joy. Also, women tend to attract their perfect match when they are happy. In other words, when you stop looking, the guy of your dreams will come. 

If you’re curious about what makes women successful in business and love, check out some of their best habits.

1. They Take the Initiative

Successful women use phrases like “I will” and “I can” and use them to change the direction of their lives. They have the mindset that steers them away from unhelpful and negative thoughts and beliefs so they can bring about positive change.

When they see other people being stagnant, they understand that hinders their chances of success, so they take negative talk and self-doubt out of the equation by focusing on all the positive aspects of their lives.

To combat negativity, they take ownership and action to propel things forward. They can motivate people around them and help them take the initiative to jump-start their own lives.  

Successful women understand that regularly working toward creating their desired lifestyle is essential. Nobody else is responsible for their success, and they get that. They are always ready to grab an opportunity when it comes. 

2. They Always Search for New Challenges

Successful women aren’t complacent in their lives. They never settle for mediocrity and strive to be a better person than yesterday. 

They’re always looking for new and exciting opportunities and challenges to develop and grow. They’re never afraid to move outside their comfort zones and try different things because they view it as exhilarating to be pushed to their limits and become a more robust version of themselves. 

It may be in their personal lives, physical health, or careers, but successful women are constantly setting goals and working diligently to achieve them.

Once they’ve reached their goals, they make boss moves and raise the bar looking to conquer their next challenge. 

Doing so makes you mentally tough and more resilient, which enables you to navigate and cruise through the roughest times.

This works for relationships, too. Women who successfully attract the guy of their dreams don’t bail when times get tough. Instead, they seek ways to mend the relationship rather than walk away.  

3. Creating a Life that’s More Than Just Work

Of course, work is essential, but every happy and thriving woman also understands the importance of having a fun and healthy social life. Having friends around allows them to release their emotions, confide their issues, have a few laughs, and boost their self-esteem. 

Successful women know that reaching their goals is essential to their vitality, but they wouldn’t be happy if they didn’t have anyone to share their triumphs with. So, while working hard, they also take time off to connect with their loved ones whenever possible. 

4. They Take Time to Care For Themselves

When people see successful women, they tend to believe they’re work-a-holics who never take time for themselves. People think successful women always think about their jobs 24-7 and have little time for anybody or anything else. This is not true.

A happy and successful woman understands that she’s only performing optimally when her mind and body are at peak condition. They get that achieving their goals and keeping up with life’s everyday challenges is only done by taking good care of themselves, so that’s exactly what they do.

They prioritize themselves both mentally and physically and understand the importance of maintaining their overall well-being and health, so they regularly engage in various activities, including:

  • light/moderate exercise
  • meditation
  • yoga
  • gardening
  • stretching
  • breathing exercises

Additionally, they incorporate healthy eating into their lifestyles and choose a balanced diet rather than overindulging in unhealthy options. The key to their success is balancing self-care, recreation, and work properly. When they do this, they’re better able to do their best because they can easily focus on their goals. 

Taking some “me-time” is essential to maintaining your mental and physical health because when you come first, you set yourself up to be successful in all areas of your life. 

Regarding relationships, women who successfully find the guy of their dreams are happy and single. While they are looking for a mate, it’s not a priority.

5. They Ask For Help When Needed

Successful women are confident in themselves and their abilities to achieve their goals. They don’t know everything, but instead of thinking they’re lacking or failing, they view it as an excellent opportunity to learn from more knowledgeable people. So, occasionally, when they need help, they are not afraid to ask for it. 

Being a confident woman means you understand your limitations and shortcomings. They attempt to fill in the gaps by researching on their own or asking those who can give them the necessary information.  

They never attempt to face their challenges unprepared because they understand it may lead to failure, which slows down their goals. They figure asking for help is the best way to improve their self-awareness of information they lack experience. To them, not being knowledgeable about something isn’t a weakness; instead, it’s an opportunity to become a better version of who they are. 

6. They’re Early Risers to Prioritize Tasks

Successful women wake up early in the morning because it’s the prime time to do activities that give them clarity–like exercising and meditation. If you begin your today with a clear mind, it’s much easier to sort out a to-do list so that you can immediately take care of all your priorities.

The quiet early morning hours are ideal for working on important projects because very few things interrupt, like excessive traffic, child, or spouse. They understand that the early morning hours ensure their work gets the necessary attention before daily distractions sidetrack them. 

For example, some people start their day early with a hot cup of coffee while sitting down and creating a to-do list for everything that needs to get done. When people prioritize a daily to-do list based on importance and urgency, they can efficiently complete the tasks and still have time for themselves at the end of the long day.  

Completing daily tasks helps you feel happier and more confident because you’ve achieved some goals you set out to do. 

When you feel confident about yourself, you exude that self-assuredness into the world. This helps you attract the opposite sex, including your perfect match. 

Woman stretching in front of window

Additionally, having enough self-confidence increases your chances of landing your dream job and attracting more positive inner-circle friends.  

If you’re looking to become a powerful woman living her best life, it’s time to start learning how to step away from work. Take time to go on vacations so you can re-energize yourself. Socialize more. Call up friends and plan an at-home movie night. If you’re short on time, consider meeting at a local happy hour spot for a drink or two. 

Taking a few hours away from work can give you enough time and space to clear your mind so you can recalibrate the techniques that help you achieve your goals. 

7. They Don’t Compare Themselves to Others

One major threat to self-confidence is comparing your accomplishments to those of others. Doing so gives other people the power to influence how you feel about yourself, which can derail your own goals. 

To succeed, you must appreciate who you are and trust your abilities. When you are truly successful, you have the confidence to only look toward what you’re doing and not at others. Regularly comparing yourself to someone else can ruin your chances of realizing your goals and living your best life. 

Instead of getting caught up with comparing yourself to others, use their success as a source of inspiration. If they can do it, you can do it, too! Notice what they did correctly and learn from their mistakes to help you gain insight into what it takes to create a happy and successful life for yourself. 

When you see yourself comparing your goals to someone else’s, stop and realize that everyone has different life circumstances and upbringings. When you stop focusing on their achievement and instead begin focusing on your own goals, you’ll find greater success and happiness in your life.

This same rings true for relationships. Often, we look at social media and see the happy life of those in a relationship. This is unhelpful for two reasons:

  1. You become depressed because you want what they have.
  2. You start thinking, “Why don’t I have this life?” and begin feeling like a failure.

Unfortunately, when people feel this way, sometimes they give up on their dreams. But when you stop comparing and start believing in yourself and focusing on your path, you realize you can learn from others. Understanding this is what propels you toward achieving your personal definition of success.  

8. They’re Kind and Selfless to Others

It’s not about competition for successful women. It’s more like a destination we all strive to reach, even at different paces. Unfortunately, a lot of people forget that life is never a race. This prevents them from thoroughly enjoying their life and causes them to miss out on special moments.

When successful women encounter those who need their help, they’re always ready to spare some time to assist them in any way they can. They don’t feel they’re ever losing anything by helping someone else. Instead, they feel more powerful being able to help and steer someone else toward their goals. In other words, their glowing candle never loses its shine when they light up another. 

For them, being kind offers plenty of benefits. It makes them feel good and is advantageous for their mind and soul, so they treat others with gentleness and warmth. 

9. They Have a Long-Term Plan

If you want to be successful, you must recognize that investing in yourself is a major ingredient. Continuously pursue knowledge by learning new things through hobbies, interests, or reading. Or, you may further your education and obtain your degree, master’s, or doctorate. The possibility to gain knowledge are endless. 

For successful women, the pursuit of knowledge and wisdom is an integral part of their long-term plans because they believe it will lead to security and success in the future. 

They logistically plan and set clear goals that guide them on the correct path to achieving those goals. They consider every detail before picking up a new responsibility to ensure each element of the plan seamlessly works together. 

In their lives, everything and everyone has a purpose. They don’t procrastinate on important tasks because they know their priorities can shift anytime. When it comes to relationships, they are also a priority, so they are sure to make time for loved ones, too.  

Successful women are goal-oriented, and their unwavering focus on success makes them inspiring to others. Because they regularly invest in themselves and their goals, they become positive role models for everyone in their inner circle. 

Final Thoughts

One of the “side effects” of being genuinely happy with yourself is that others will be attracted to you, including the guy of your dreams. This article is not to give you methods to catch a specific guy, like a hot but nice conservative or Christian guy. There are dating apps for that.

Instead, this article demonstrates ways to be happy with who you are to have a wonderful life–and if you happen to find Mr. Right in the process, congratulations!  

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