Ladies, doesn’t it feel amazing to get sexual attention from your man, regardless of how long you’ve been dating? You could be at a point in your relationship where you’re searching for fun and exciting methods to make him focus on you to reignite the spark when you’re feeling particularly sexual.
There are many simple and fresh ways to seduce your man (among other things) when you’re in the mood and revving to go. From sexy looks and subtle scents to dirty sex talk and forbidden dances, you can get his interest.
If you’re looking for subtle everyday moves you can do to get his attention, check out the below methods that will turn him on while simultaneously making you feel sexy and empowered.
1. Give Him Compliments
Guys like to feel good, especially if the source is you. So, when it’s appropriate, compliment his physical appearance. It can be comments about his physique, how he laughs, or how he moves. If you like his clothing style, let him know.
When men feel confident about their appearance, they will likely be turned on and more receptive to your attempts for his attention. For example, try comments like:
2. Seduce Your Man with Eye Contact
When you look at him, lock eyes and hold his gaze for a few seconds. Since your eyes are considered one of the strongest seductive tools, look at him from afar, either in public or when you’re in private.
In public, glance at him from across the crowded room. When your eyes lock, give him a sly grin. At home, look at him from across the table and smile, or if you pass him in the hall, take a second to glance at him and hold his gaze for one or two seconds.
The more intentional you are, the bigger his reaction (physical and emotional) will be. Here are some tips to use:
3. Say His Name in a Conversation
Who doesn’t love the sound of their own name? Cutesy nicknames like “sweetie,” “hun,” or “baby” are nice to hear. However, he’ll know you’re speaking to him intimately when his name comes from your lips. You can also add in some seductive and subtle pauses around his name in everyday talk, like:
4. Use a Gentle Touch to Make Him Feel Hot
When he’s not expecting it, graze his lower back or gently run your fingertips down his arm. Your touch doesn’t necessarily need to be sexual to make him feel sexy and desired–although that’s good, too. With the slightest physical contact from you, he’ll feel like you want him, which is a complete turn-on.
Guys like being touched; whether it’s romantic, platonic, or erotic, they enjoy being physical. So, if you want to get his attention, try more unexpected, playful touches like:
5. Wear His Favorite Perfume
Spray on one of his favorite scents or one that he says reminds him of you. It can be perfume you currently wear or one you wore when you first began dating. When people smell a familiar scent, it can stimulate various sensory reactions, including arousal. So, when he smells you, he may become excited.
When he gets a whiff of that scent, he’ll start thinking about you and all the exciting and fun times you had together, and yes, that includes the bedroom!
6. Try Flirty Body Language to Show Him You’re Ready
If you want him to know you’re in the mood, use flirty body language like wiggling your hips in bed or cuddling up close to him. A big move is smiling at him while tilting your head sideways. This is effective in front of him with an open posture. Other sexy moves include:
7. Reminisce about the Time You First Met
Talk about the exhilaration you felt when you first met each other. Turn off all distractions, like your tv or cell phone, so you can focus on each other. Think about all the fun you used to have together during your flirty phase, or reminisce about your first date. Where did you go? How did you feel? How long was the date? Discuss the details, like what you wore and your expectations about the date. His start will start racing just like when you two first met.
One other way to recreate an exciting and exhilarated feeling is to do something brand new together. Go to a new bar, or take a beginner’s cooking class–something where you’re both at the same inexperienced level so you can learn together.
8. Flaunt the Physical Features He Likes on You
When he’s looking in your direction, subtly play up his favorite part of your body. If he loves your shoulders and neck area, don’t be shy about coming out of the shower only wrapped in a towel.
If he loves your lips, brush them with your finger while studying. Do a few extra smacks when you put on your lip gloss. The point is to do what you naturally do, but only this time, do it when he’s looking. Other ideas might be:
9. Teach Him a Sexy New Dance Move
Next time you’re dancing together, pull out a sexy new move with your hips and butt in full view. You don’t need to be a professional dancer or create a choreographed routine. Instead, show him one new hip-shaking move you’ve never shown him before.
Whether at a party, in a club, or at home dancing to music, your new move will grab his attention and reignite a spark that can ultimately lead to the bedroom.
If you want to be more direct, do a slow, erotic routine just for him when you’re alone. It’s not about being the best dancer in the world; it’s more about being sexy for your man to let him know you’re interested.
To get his focus on you, put on some music and move in a sensual manner that feels good to you.
10. Make Him Slightly Jealous
Hug a guy friend or reminisce about an ex in his presence. When he realizes other guys still drool over you, he’ll be excited and ready to go. A mild case of the green-eyed monster will help remind him how lucky he is to have you as his girlfriend–the woman who still lusts after him and only him.
Be careful not to take the jealousy too far because it may hurt his feelings. There are plenty of ways to make him a little green with envy, including:
Ways to Make Him Jealous
Sadly, some guys take their relationship and their partner for granted, so they stop trying to keep the love alive But don’t fear because there are little tricks you can do to spark your relationship and remind him of the good thing he has.
If done correctly, jealousy is one way to get him to notice that he’s got a good thing. However, it can be a double-edged sword, so you may get burned if you don’t play it on the safer side.
Ways to make him jealous:
Making him jealous isn’t necessarily about playing games. It’s more about actions speaking louder than words. You may have told him how you feel, but he will definitely get your point if you show him.
11. Discuss How Hot He Was When You Met
Go into detail and paint a picture of how good-looking he was when you first met. Tell him how irresistible he was when you first laid eyes on him or how you wanted to devour him when you were in your flirting phase. Recount the time you first hooked up or engaged in sex, and don’t leave out one single detail.
Give him a tempting touch or, if you really want to reminisce and take him back to the earliest moments in your relationship, reenact how you first sauntered over to talk to him. Add in some physicalities to let him know what you’re going to do to him when you’re done re-telling the story.
12. Get Flirty and Start Some Teasing
Whisper seductively in his ear or make sexy comments. Flirting and teasing can make your boyfriend feel desired and hot. Tell him what you would love to do with (and to) him later or what you want him to do to you.
Teasing works well when there’s a little tension involved, so get him going at a time when he can’t easily whisk you away to the bedroom. Try something like:
13. Initiate Some Sexy Time…but on Your Terms
Take all the control out of his hands and be the boss in charge for one night. This is a refreshing and exciting way to shake it up and display your more dominant side. You tell him where you’re going to dinner on date night. Or give him sexy teasing rules like, “no touching all night” as a type of foreplay.
Your confident and domineering side will turn him on as he surrenders to your every command. Demonstrate you are in control for the night by:
14. Turning Him on Tips
Do only things you feel comfortable with to get his attention. For example, skip the dancing if you have two left feet and are uneasy with the idea. If you’re hesitant about the more sexual or upfront ideas, but the subtle ones are getting your desired results, have a conversation with him about what you want regarding sexual attention.
If you and your boyfriend have not engaged in sex yet, check in with him and yourself to ensure you’re both ready. It will be more fun attempting to get his attention when you know you both will be satisfied with the outcome.
15. Sext When Apart and in Public
Message him your sexiest joke or a hot selfie of yourself. He’ll receive the message loud and clear and probably won’t be able to concentrate when he understands what’s waiting for him when he finally gets home.
To add even more sexual tension, send a dirty text while you’re in public together. Text him something like:
You’re in a relationship with the guy, so of course, you want him to be attracted to you. Unfortunately, sometimes people get complacent after dating for a long time, and your sex life gets boring. Use these ideas to spice up the bedroom.
But if you need some excitement out of bed, also check out these ideas if your partner is boring. Good luck!