How to Know You’ve Fallen in Love with Your Best Friend

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You get along so well with your best friend. You’ve been through everything together, including previous relationships and the loss of family members. You are their ride-or-die, and you know everything about each other, so falling for them is common.

But how do you know your feelings are more than just platonic? If it is more than a feeling of appreciation for who they are, elevating your relationship can be tricky, so take a moment to think about the repercussions if you decide to let them know. After all, if it doesn’t work out, you don’t want to risk losing your best friend forever.

The Signs You May Be Falling in Love with Your Best Friend

The signs are often there. You usually don’t recognize them because you’ve been so close for a while. When you fall in love with your best friend, there’s so much at risk, like them not being in love with you, or if you do get into a romantic relationship, what happens when and if it goes south?

Ponder these questions before letting them know your true feelings, and be sure about how you feel. Here are the signs that tell you you’re falling in love with your best friend.

You Pay Close Attention to His Actions

You never watched his routine as he dressed to hang out, but now you notice every little detail. For example, you’re more conscious of how he brushes his hair or the type of cologne he uses. In addition, you now notice how he acts or reacts to certain situations.

Surprisingly, you’re discovering new quirks about him that you’ve never noticed, and now you find those eccentricities attractive.

He Takes Priorities over Your Other Friends

A few months ago, you never jumped at his call, but now you find yourself doing things for him that you don’t do for anyone else because, well, it’s him.

You think of him and buy him little gifts even though it’s not a holiday or his birthday. His happiness is your happiness. So you don’t mind going above and beyond to put a smile on his face.

How to Show Your Crush You like Him

Let’s face it: guys can be challenging to read, especially if they’ve been your friend for a while and you’re ready to tell them, “Hey, I think you’re hot!”

You’re navigating through uncharted waters, so introduce your feelings slowly with something like a coy smile or a flirtatious wink. Then, if they’re still completely unaware, try a few of these subtle ideas:

Direct eye contact is the perfect way to let him know you’re interested. This doesn’t mean creepily staring them down. It simply means that if he has something to say, focus on him and not on your phone. If you’re out, stop getting easily distracted by watching everyone who walks through the door. Instead, give him your full and undivided attention.

Additionally, show him you’re interested by engaging in a little flirtatious eye contact from across the room.

This sounds old-school, but men like feeling appreciated. You don’t have to go old-fashioned style by asking him to open up a pickle jar (although that works, too).

Instead, update the request by asking for his help in recommending an app. In other words, ask him something that makes him feel smart. He may catch on to your feelings if you were always the app-savvy one and now you’re asking for his help.

Stop blending in with the paint while girls flirt with him. You may have done this before, but now things are different. Keep yourself in the conversation, whether in a group or one-on-one. Guys always notice if you’re lively and engaging or playing the invisible man in the corner.

Back in the day, you may have worn sweats and a stained, torn sweatshirt. However, now you’re interested in him, so step up your game. I’m not talking about wearing a ball gown to hang out over his house; I’m saying leave the raggedy sweats and dirty tee-shirts for cleaning the bathroom. Instead, put on a timeless outfit, like a pair of stylish jeans, your favorite tee shirt, or anything you feel comfortable and sexy wearing.

He might not realize he’s on a date yet, but he’ll get the message soon.

Tell him if he looks hot in his outfit. Don’t be afraid to show interest by dropping a few compliments here and there. Just be careful not to turn this into a weird “kudos for you!” moment by being hard-pressed to find things to like about him. Instead, let the moment come organically.

If he told you he likes how you look in an outfit, do your best to wear that outfit or a variation of the outfit. For example, he told you that a pair of jeans you have complements your figure nicely. So then, that’s what you should wear on your next outing.

If he tells you those earrings fit your style and personality perfectly, the next time you go out, wear those earrings. However, be careful not to “overwear” something he likes. The idea is to wear it once or twice and then sporadically afterward. Trust me, if he didn’t notice immediately, he will.

All of a Sudden, You Care about How You Look

He’s seen you with no make-up, before a shower, and with bedhead. Suddenly, it’s a thing if he sees you before an entire glam squad session.

Also, you’re constantly wearing his favorite color and that green nail polish he likes. You used to be comfortable hanging out with him looking like the before image. Now, you’re mortified if he sees you looking anything less than Beyonce-ish.

His Hugs Feel Different

When you used to hug him strictly as a buddy, it was nice but casual. Now his embrace is warmer, and you’d love for it to last longer. Additionally, when he used to touch you, it felt best friend-ish. Now, it’s different. His touch creates sexual tension no matter how much you try to avoid it.

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He’s Become Your Personal Therapist

You used to spread your neurosis amongst all your friends, but now he’s the only one you prefer to talk to because you value his insight and opinion. He tolerates your tantrums and won’t hold them against you the following day.

When you feel your self-esteem dipping, he’s the one that picks you up. He encourages you to get out there and be your best self when all you feel like doing is hiding in bed.

He reads every single word when you go on a rant via text. You trust him with your deepest secrets and know he’s got your back if you ever need him.

You’re Now Territorial When It Comes to Him

He used to tell you all about the girls he liked, and you had no issue with that. However, now you get jealous whenever he mentions a female that’s not you. Before, it never bothered you that girls used to flirt with him when you went out. Now, if a girl even looks at him, you’re ready to drag her outside by her hair.

Additionally, if someone, male or female, negatively talks about him, you're quick to jump to his defense because you know he's a great guy.

Turning a Friendship into True Love

What does it mean to “fall in love?” Falling in love with a person happens when there are strong feelings and attraction to someone you care about. It’s easier to see these emotions in a new relationship.

However, it’s more difficult to realize these feelings in a friendship. Somedays, it might appear your best friend is in love with you, too. Other times, they act as though they’re simply the best friend they’ve always been.

If you’d like to explore more of a romantic relationship with your best friend and are unsure what to do next, here are a few tips to strengthen your friendship along with a possible burgeoning love.

What to Do if You’ve Fallen for Your Best Friend

We’ve all heard the saying, good friends are hard to come by. Anytime you find a genuine, life-long friend, you want to nourish that relationship and keep it going. The good news is, if you start to catch feelings for your bestie, it could end up in the ideal love affair.

Then, there’s what’s behind door number two.

Falling in love with a best friend is scary and exhilarating at the same time. If it doesn’t work out, you could lose it all; a best friend, a therapist, a confidant, your ride or die, it’s all gone. If this is a risk you’re willing to take, here are a few suggestions:

Falling in love with a best friend can be exciting. However, before you make that leap, be sure it’s a romantic situation and not just the deep love and respect you have for all your friends. Whether or not you move forward can determine the future of your friendship. So, take time to think about all the benefits and drawbacks involved with dating your best friend. Good luck!

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