“Love at first click.” You may have heard the saying. Or perhaps a better one: ‘Get who gets you.’ These are just a handful of phrases associated with eHarmony, a popular dating website and app. eHarmony, founded in 2000 by clinical psychologist Dr. Neil Clark Warren, was one of the first sites to use a scientific approach to matchmaking.
Dr. Warren believed that long-term relationships were more likely to succeed when partners were highly compatible with each other. He developed a comprehensive personality questionnaire to identify potential matches who shared similar values, interests, and goals by identifying possible matches based on the likelihood of compatibility.
The scientific matching system is based on extensive research and analysis of successful relationships and considers factors like personality, values, beliefs, and interests.
This approach was relatively new to the online dating world, and this focus on compatibility matching quickly set eHarmony apart from other dating sites that relied more on surface-level factors like physical attraction. That’s even more true in the day and age of sites like Tinder, where swiping on physical appearance has become the norm.
Despite this, eHarmony keeps its mission by remaining an authentic dating site that encourages in-depth compatibility over superficiality. Even in a dense landscape of what seems to be unlimited dating websites and apps, eHarmony continues to be one of the largest dating sites in the world, with millions of users in over 190 countries.
In addition to its matchmaking services, eHarmony provides users with a wealth of resources and advice on how to build and maintain strong, healthy relationships. These resources include articles, videos, and online courses on topics like communication, conflict resolution, and intimacy.
By encouraging users to utilize these tools, eHarmony goes a step beyond just helping users find a partner. Not many dating apps or sites have this unique feature, and it’s just another way eHarmony’s commitment to love encourages you to find–and keep–romance blossoming.
And not much has changed in the twenty-three years since its creation. eHarmony’s reputation continues to focus on compatibility matching and its commitment to helping users find long-term, meaningful relationships.
But if taglines like ‘finding the one’ still haven’t convinced you to give eHarmony a shot, maybe their extensive success stories will encourage you to give it a try. With a soundtrack record of successful relationships and marriages, even the most cynical singletons out there may remember that butterflies still exist. You just have to put yourself out there.
Compatibility Matters
Applying scientific research to dating behavior can result in a significant increase in the number of successful relationships. While it may seem like fate, it’s actually the result of deliberate efforts put forth by eHarmony’s scientific matching system.
That’s why, according to their website, every 14 minutes, someone finds a compatible partner and builds a meaningful relationship on eHarmony. eHarmony success stories fill the internet, ranging from reports on their website to posts on Instagram and Twitter. Love is more than possible; it’s easy when compatibility is sorted for you.
Paula and Richard
Lancashire, UK | Married December 5th, 2020
Paula and her partner had planned to meet a couple of weeks earlier, but due to a miscommunication, the first date was delayed. Paula had already prepared for the earlier date, going so far as to get her done in preparation for her first meeting with Richard.
He would later admit the miscommunication was his fault and that he was lucky Paula gave him a second chance. Paula was happy she did too.
There was something about Paula that was just different. She was unique enough, in fact, that Richard drove four hours to meet her. Still, Richard was nervous.
When he arrived in a small bar, however, Richard would recall how Paula bounced around the corner with lively energy and a smile that made his heart skip. Instantly, he felt a spark, an immediate connection. Was it possible to fall in love at first sight? Richard seemed to think so.
And fortunately for him, Paula felt the same. They clicked instantly, their ease natural and effortless. Even a girl in the bathroom on her own first date commented to Paula how natural she and Richard looked together.
The woman was shocked it was Paula and Richard’s first date. It’s a common thread in these eHarmony success stories. Time and time again, couples will think back to that first date and say the same thing: Everything just felt so natural!
Paula, a spontaneous, fiery redhead, was the opposite of Richard, a planner. She enjoyed surprises, embracing the fun in life, and encouraging the people she loved to do the same. She once dropped her daughter off for a school trip dressed in a unicorn onesie.
In return, Richard has encouraged her to try more adventurous activities, like mountain climbing. They bring out the best in each other, seemingly effortlessly becoming each other’s other halves.
Paula and Richard, each a parent to daughters from a previous relationship, planned a blended family holiday to Tunisia in August 2019. During the trip, they took a detour to Sahara, complete with camel rides and sunrise views over the sand dunes.
Unknown to Richard, Paula had asked all four girls for permission to marry Richard. After getting their blessing, Paula coordinated a late-night star-gazing for her and Richard, where she proposed under the sparkle of the Milky Way. They shared a meal, a celebration with their daughter, and a unique engagement ring that Richard adored.
Now, years later, Paula and Richard have built a firm foundation for their relationship, and they both admit it’s because eHarmony encouraged them to be honest from the get-go. Because they had both been through difficult times, they each had a clear idea of what they wanted from life and who they wanted to share it with.
eHarmony not only brought them together but encouraged them to dive deep into the vulnerable sides of their personalities they had previously been too afraid to talk about.
Success stories from eHarmony are beyond common and not just from their own website. I found dozens of stories just like this across Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Real-life couples so satisfied with the love they’ve found they’re more than happy to add an eHarmony hashtag in their post.
These were just a few of the Facebook statuses I found:
“My little brother just got married, Fam!!!! send [them] some love!!!!! I’m so happy and proud of him!!!!” #eharmonylove
“One of our favorites in Tahoe…..” #itallbegan10yearsago #eharmonylove
“Happy 7-year wedding anniversary to my best friend and partner in crime! Since I met you 10 years ago, we have moved states, started 2 successful businesses, traveled the world, and laughed more than any 2 people I know! Cheers to a lifetime of memories with you by my side!” #eharmonysuccess #cabogetaway.
Kirsten and Dominick
Louisburg, Kansas | Engaged May 1st, 2021
It was the middle of 2020, and as the world came to a standstill, Kirsten decided to finally take the leap. Kristin, like many people during Covid, struggled with the isolation that came with quarantine and shutdown.
At the strong urging of her family, Kristin took the leap and joined eHarmony. Lockdown encouraged her to take the final step, a push she didn’t think she was strong enough to take until she just went for it. And the rest? Well, you can ask Dominick about that.
Not long after joining, Kristin was scrolling her matches when a man named Dominick caught her eye. After only a couple of weeks of conversation, they were both unable to deny their connection, and both realized they needed to meet in person.
Dominick, who had signed up on a whim, noticed Kirsten on the first pages of his potential matches. Struck by her warm personality in her greeting, Dominick was overwhelmed with an urge to get to know her unique approach to life.
After breaking the ice with texts and video calls–adhering to Covid rules in the process–Kirstin and Dominick were rearing to meet as lockdown came to a close in the middle of 2020. The chemistry in person, like their connection online, was instant. There was never a dull moment, and when they blinked, nine hours had passed. A second date was inevitable.
Not long after becoming a couple, Kristin, who thought she was headed to dinner with her sister, found herself at the same restaurant where she and Dominick shared their first date. Dominick had created a thoughtful video cataloging their love and a card cementing his feelings in writing.
When Dominick got down on one knee, the whirlwind of the moment took over. To this day, neither of them remembers exactly what was said, except Kristin’s word: “yes.” History wrote itself from the moment they matched on eHarmony.
It didn’t take much searching to find a flood of stories, like Kristin and Domincks’s, on eHarmony’s Twitter page.
@eHarmonyCanada | May 9, 2016
“We met 2 years ago through eHarmony. Another perfect match! We got married April 15.” – Theresa P. #eHarmonySuccess
“Married 2 years this past September and welcomed our second daughter in August. Thank you eHarmony!” #eHarmonySuccess
Sarah Bishop and Kacey Harris
Some love stories are written in the stars, others have reminisced on Twitter and Facebook, but then there’re stories like Sarah Bishop and Kacey Harris, whose eHarmony love story made the New York Times.
On the morning of January 6th, 2021, surrounded by the Rocky mountains and standing in fresh snow, Sarah and Kacey played rock-paper-scissors to decide who got to say their vows first.
Unlike most people, terrified of saying their vows first, both women wanted to win, eager to be the ones to confess their vows to their lifelong partner first.
This unique and playful show represents the woman’s relationship and something they enjoyed at their self-uniting ceremony in Frisco, Colorado. It was zero degrees, but the heat between them could still be felt. This was not the couple’s first wedding, not their second, but their third–and not with other people.
You heard that correctly. This fun-loving couple had planned three ceremonies, each canceled in the wake of the Covid pandemic. But after ten years together, they figured they could wait another day. And ten years after meeting on eHarmony, they finally tied the knot in a ceremony that ended up differing from what they expected but perfect just for them.
No witnesses, only their two dogs–whose paw prints would end up inked on their marriage license–and the love they’d cultivated over the last decade.
The (e)Harmony of Love
The stories are extensive and continue on. An ABC News article from Oct. 31, 2011, details how Carrie Ann Inaba, a judge for Dancing with the Stars, opened up about finding love just like the contestants who gushed about their partners. Carrie Ann revealed she met her fiance, Jesse Sloan, on none other than, you guessed it, eHarmony.
The popular forum Reddit also has stories about success with eHarmony, touching specifically on the algorithm that brought people together.
One user going by the name Witty-alternative-57 discussed his success meeting a partner by touching on eHarmony’s matchmaking system, discussing how eHarmony put their compatibility rate at 117 percent, something that initially made him skeptical but proved accurate once they connected, their commonality and spark instantaneous.
Not only did they finish each other’s sentences, but they never ran out of things to say.
If that’s not compatibility, then I don’t know what is. If these stories have proved anything, it’s that the compatibility eHarmony promotes among couples is real–and it works.
